“You weren’t made to survive the fire—you were made to lead others through it. CALM isn’t weakness. It’s your superpower.”
CONNECTION HEALS WHAT CORRECTION CAN'T...
CONNECTION HEALS WHAT CORRECTION CAN'T...
Keynotes
From Chaos to CALM: Leading with Connection, Clarity and Courage
In today’s fast-paced world, leaders aren’t just managing teams—they’re holding people together while holding it all together themselves. And yet, disconnection is quietly unraveling everything—from team morale to family relationships.Carlamay Sheremata knows this terrain well. As a retired police officer, award-winning author, and creator of the 𝐂𝐀𝐋𝐌 𝐋𝐞𝐚𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩 𝐌𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐝™, she’s led through crisis, rebuilt trust in broken systems, and helped people reconnect when it mattered most.In this high-impact keynote, Carlamay invites audiences into a bold conversation about what leadership truly demands in high-stress environments—empathy, clarity, and connection. With raw stories, practical strategies, and real-life wisdom, she challenges the belief that leadership is about control—and shows that true power lies in connection.This talk isn’t just inspiring—it’s a turning point.If your audience is burned out, checked out, or leading from survival mode, Carlamay will reignite what they’ve lost and equip them with what they need to move forward—with trust, courage, and purpose.Three Takeaways
Lead With Connection, Not Just Correction: Learn how trust-based leadership transforms performance, morale, and retention—especially in high-pressure environments.
Navigate Crisis Without Losing People: Discover the CALM Leadership Method™—a trust-centered, emotionally intelligent framework to lead with courage, even when everything feels on fire.
Rebuild Culture From the Inside Out: Understand the vital link between personal and professional connection—and how restoring one always strengthens the other.
Being ‘PINK’ In A ‘BLUE’ World
As a female police officer, Carlamay navigated a world where the demands of my profession often clashed with societal expectations of femininity. In a landscape where strength is synonymous with masculinity and toughness, standing true to her feminine identity felt like an uphill battle. Every day, Carlamay confronted the challenge of remaining authentically herself while fulfilling the responsibilities of her role.This journey wasn't just about wearing a badge; it was about embracing the complexities of femininity in a world that sometimes seeks to bury it, both literally and figuratively. It was about defying stereotypes and reshaping perceptions of what it means to be a woman in law enforcement.Femininity, to Carlamay, is more than just pink nail polish or delicate accessories. It's about embodying empathy, compassion, and resilience in the face of adversity. It's about finding strength in vulnerability, courage in authenticity, and grace in the midst of chaos.Carlamay will explore the nuances of standing in her feminine while navigating a blue world that often tries to drown it out. Carlamay will share insights into how she reconciles the expectations of her profession with the essence of who she is as a woman. Together, you'll uncover strategies for staying true to oneself and embracing your femininity in environments that may seem overwhelmingly masculine.Join Carlamay as she delves into the intricacies of remaining pink in a blue world, celebrating the power and resilience of femininity in the face of adversity.Three Takeaways
Embracing Authenticity: Carlamay emphasizes the importance of staying true to oneself in a male-dominated environment. She shares strategies for maintaining authenticity and femininity while fulfilling the demands of a profession often associated with masculinity.
Redefining Femininity: The presentation challenges stereotypes by redefining femininity as a blend of empathy, resilience, and strength. Carlamay encourages participants to see vulnerability as a source of power rather than a weakness, fostering a deeper understanding of what it means to be a woman in law enforcement.
Building a Supportive Community: Carlamay discusses the significance of creating networks among women in traditionally male fields. By sharing experiences and supporting each other, women can navigate challenges together, empowering one another to thrive while embracing their unique identities in a "blue world."
Become The Bridge Back To Your Kids
Are you struggling to connect with the young people in your life? Do you wish you knew the right questions to ask to get them to open up and truly engage in conversation?Youth Truth: Engaging in Conversations That Can Change lives, you’ll discover how to approach difficult topics with empathy and support, creating safe spaces where youth feel valued and heard. Through this engaging session, Carlamay will help you understand the complex issues today's youth face and guide you on how to ask the right questions that genuinely resonate with them.Based on insights from Carlamay's book: Youth Truth, this session delves into the raw, unfiltered realities of today’s youth, highlighting the often-overlooked battles they fight—from the haunting shadows of suicide and bullying to the silent struggles with eating disorders and the desperate need to be seen.As a retired law enforcement officer and school resource officer, Carlamay brings a unique perspective to these challenges. This presentation is more than just a discussion; it’s a call to action. By listening and engaging in honest, compassionate conversations, you can make a profound impact on the lives of the young people around you.Join Carlamay in Youth Truth to empower yourself with the tools to build stronger, more supportive relationships with the youth in your life.Three Takeaways
Creating Safe, Supportive Spaces: Learn how to foster environments where youth feel heard, values, and safe enough to share their struggles, opening the door for real conversations.
Understanding Youth Struggles: Gain insight into the hidden battles today’s youth face, from mental health challenges to social pressures, and learn how to better support them.
Empowering Through Compassionate Conversations: Gain practical tools and strategies for engaging in conversations that empower youth, helping them navigate complex challenges while fostering trust and connection.
WHO NEEDS TO BECOME A BRIDGE?
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Do you know the heartbreak of feeling you can’t get through to your child.
We ask ourselves questions like..
What happened to my baby?
Do they even love me anymore?
Did I cause this?
It is one of the worst possible feelings to feel like you are losing your child.
The good news is, it does not have to be permanent.
Your child has a biological pull towards you and the rebellion is coming out of elements that you can overcome.
Book me now for your next event and I will help you and your team become the bridge back to your kids.
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We know too well that for too many kids, we are their last hope.
But what do you do when children don’t fit the mold you were trained to work with?
What happens when all our training is useless in helping specific children?
There are many ways to build a bridge to even those children and it all starts with becoming tuned into what they are showing you, not always what they are telling you.
Book me for your next conference and I will teach you the skills I learned to help you become the bridge for the kids we know need you most!
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It is your job to have all the answers… yet sometimes, you just don’t!
Sometimes it can even come down to you simply not having the energy to dig deeper because you are running on empty.
Let me help you and your colleagues implement simple techniques to build a bride to even the most complicated cases.
Book me for your next conference today
CARLAMAY’S BIO
With over two decades of service in law enforcement, I navigated the diverse landscape of this profession, contributing my skills to various specialty units. As a passionate advocate for empowerment, particularly of women, I have worked tirelessly to uplift and support those around me, from at-risk youth to newcomers and Immigrants; to fellow colleagues and everyone in-between.
My journey has been marked by resilience, overcoming the challenges of surviving cancer, a divorce, embracing single parenthood, and navigating the complexities of a PTSD diagnosis. Embracing the unconventional, I never conformed to societal expectations, choosing instead to live outside the confines of a “box”, paving my own unique path with purpose and determination.
Beyond my commitment to law enforcement, I have funneled my experiences into a compelling narrative. Through writing a book, I strive to bridge a generational gap, shedding light on what youth yearn for their parents, teachers, and friends to understand about them. My exploration dives into the unspoken desires these youth experience, offering insight into the questions that often linger in their minds, fostering a deeper understanding and connection with them. It’s my sincere hope to amplify the voices of the younger generation and to facilitate meaningful conversations that exceed the conventional boundaries of traditional communication.
No matter how difficult life has been or how tarnished you believe you are, each person has a diamond within them and when polished, it will shine bright. Each person brings a light into this world and it's each of our mission to see that light and help them to let it shine!
I retired this past May from the Calgary Police Service and have begun an amazing adventure as a keynote speaker and author. I am using my stories to empower others. I have a background in Psychology, Sociology and music and enjoy singing and spending time with my family.
I am finally living outside a box I never fit into.
